1: Time Management is Necessary
A good time management is always necessary as it lets you complete or accomplish more in a short period of time, which as a result will give you a lot of time for yourself. And ‘me’ time is very necessary as you can pamper yourself, think of what to do next, pursue your hobbies and most importantly you can spend a quality time with your friends and beloved ones.
2: Your Problem is Your Problem None of Others Problem
Indians after reading this point it can recollect Daisy Shah’s famously trolled dialogue from Race 3, “Our business is our business. None of your business”. However coming back to the point, whatever problems you have in your life they are completely yours. People might listen to your issues if you share it with them but only very few will understand. You are the only person who needs to deal with your issues. No one will understand your pain or issues
3: Learn to Say No
Saying No is very important because when you constantly say yes or agree with someone they tend to take you for granted, which is not good at all. You can say ‘No’ without being rude too. Remember, at the end of the day loving yourself is most important and saying yes and then stressing over it will only make you sick.
That’s all from my side today on withlovemoni.com. See you soon again.
Good you have learnt these things. Saying no is very important. We can’t say yes to everything and everyone.
Time management is number for me, I am a full-time mother of 2, a full-time worker at home and a full-time wife so managing my time is really important in my daily life.
Three very important things to remember – I appreciate the reminder. I especially resonate with not syaing yes to everything!! We cannot do it all for other people.
I struggle with time management, but I’m learning! Love the post!
I still struggle with time management, but eventually learned to accept it. It wasn’t me, and glad I have reliable team who can handle it great.
I’ve perfected the art of saying no! As you say, as long as you’re not rude, it’s important to be honest if you really don’t want to do, or be somewhere. It’s quite empowering!
thank you, ill follow your tips but its so hard right now! thanks for this article
All three are so true. I struggle with the just say no!
YES! YES! YES!!! I actually wrote a whole blog post over it being okay to say no! So important!!
It is very important to learn to say no. It does no one any good if you are over extended.
Ugh saying no is the most difficult for me. The second point comes naturally I guess cuz I don’t feel comfortable to share my problems. Time Management though is something I’ve just got the habit of doing, it’s very rewarding!
True. I’m getting comfy with saying “no” without giving any explanations. I can’t please people and displease/inconvenience myself at the same time.
Agree with you totally! Life gives enough opportunities to learn many things. We should spot them and implement in a positive way.
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I am so bad at No.3 and the time management sometimes, but i am learning on it. Time to time and soon i will get there 🙂 Nice article!
Three very important lessons! I am usually pretty good at time management, but sometimes it just gets away from me. While technically, I’m on schedule (or even a tad early) I feel very behind. And yes, it’s important to be able to say no. You have to put yourself above all else.
Recently I have learnt to say no and have my own say and thoughts to things which I was just dealing with simply because I didnt want to hurt others. But yes people just dont bother about your opinion if you dont stand for yourself and learn to say no.
Nice post Monidipa…..loved reading it….and a lovely picture of you at the end to greet me….:)….hope to read and connect more…
Thank you for your post! It’s important to say “no” from time to time, and not a selfish thing to sdo.
I think I have only just learnt to say no, that is a big thing!
Learning the hard way isn’t always most pleasing but it is always a lesson learned the best.
As for the list: you can say that again!
Time management is a nessesity. You can’t live without proper self organization.
Knowing your problems are your own makes your life surprisingly easier, way easier. It is easier to reason yourself, esp when it goes for your family.
Saying ‘no’ is golden.
HA great points love. I love point number two but more especially point number three. Learning to say no is a must.
Great to see you growing. Love
Hi.
My biggest problem is the last one that you say: learn how to say no. I’m working on it but, still have a lot to do. Great post
Those are important lessons. I had to learn them over and over, so be sure to stay on top of lessons learned! 🙂
From your list, I’ve definitely learnt that time management is just amust iof one had to be productive. No wonder I try so hard to schedule everything and keep up with my schedule.
I’ve been really working hard on time management lately, particularly in trying to get all the things I like doing least (like cleaning!) right at the beginning of the day. Then I can relax later.
These are all very true! Learning to say no is a hard one, but sometimes you just have to in order to do what is best for you xx
It took me a long time to learn to say no. In fact, that’s the one that was hardest to learn and was the hardest WAY to learn.
All of these are soo important! We have to learn to look after ourselves and our feelings more than others.
I too, have learnt time management is necessary, the hard way. Despite this, I still don’t make enough effort to get better at it!
These are important things to have learnt. I am the same with learning to say no. I’ve only recently started doing this. Before I’d over load myself and found it too stressful.
I learned the second in a hard way. Our problem must be kept privately. Betrayal is painful and when we think we can trust a person it hits us hard that we can’t always tell other people everything.
Time management is a great lesson. I prioritize family first and then open my schedule to others.
I tend to say yes to a lot when I know that I shouldn’t so I can see where you are coming from with that one. I know that I should learn to say no a lot more.
These three things are still a work in progress for me but oh so very important to commit to!
This was all really nice. I am still trying to work on time management. This was so informative.
3 very wise points and all true. Saying no can be so hard and stopping to manage your time properly. It is a harsh realization that your business is just that – yours but worth grasping.
With three children, finding me time is tough, not to mention saying no. Great post reminding everyone how important this is
These 3 are something we have in common….. Poor me… I never learned..
#3 is probably the most obvious lesson, yet the hardest to really learn. I still struggle with this myself
This one here: Your Problem is Your Problem None of Others Problem. I definitely had to learn it the hard way.
I have learned some of the same lessons the hard way as well.
These are very important life lessons. Time management is extremely important – especially when juggling family and work. I can really use some help saying No though 🙂
I also have a hard time saying no. But lately I have had to because I just don’t have the time to do it all. Which also applies to time management. 🙂
So struggling with saying no. Why am I going to a destination wedding in Mexico??? That is seriously a hard task. And time management always makes life easier.
Hi Moni. Glad to know about this! This is so learning Keep in inspired to others 🙂
I agree.. Saying NO is very important. We cannot go on trying to please everyone because in the end we are going to be stressed out.
Most of us dot have courage to say NO. This is an important lesson one needs to learn to have less complicated life.
i have learned to say no the hard way. felt really, really stressful to the point that my boss was so demanding 🙁 we all have to set limits sometimes. good read!
Saying NO is very hard for many. I don’t have an issue with that department, since I learned it back in my childhood days.
This is a great post. It is a really good reminder about life and saying no when you really need to think about your own mental health.
I sometimes struggle with saying no, especially if it’s with people I love. Don’t want to disappoint them…
thanks for the tips and tricks shared.
my mom and sister would love this!
Haha… I can feel that dialogue and yeah that point is upto the mark. I discover about it way back.
I totally agree. It is so important to learn to say no sometimes and time management is certainly key – these are things I have also learnt the hard way.
Definitely rules to live by! I reckon many people especially struggle with not being able to say no.
These are great lessons. Time management is important. It drives me nuts when people are constantly late. Also, I have learned to say no. If I truly can’t do it, I’ll decline.
Time management is the worst for me – 5 kids, 2 businesses and not enough hours in the day :/
It took me a long time to learn that saying no is okay! Sometimes pleasing people is impossible, so you just have to say no and move on.
These tips are super helpful. I’m always saying yes and then not having the time to please everyone, great post!
I think number 2 is something that needs to be taught in school. Take responsibility for your actions, accept your problem is yours and do something about it. Don’t just blame others!
These are great lessons! I’ve learned the hard way about time management, too. It’s so incredibly critical to being successful.
Learning to say NO!! Yes to this all day! I have been working on this all year and the results have been beautiful. I no longer feel guilty for saying no. Wonderful post!
These are all such vital lessons. Learning to say no is something I’m still working on.
I too struggle with time management. I look at the clock and wonder where the time went.
Now I’m doing many things with time management in mind. Love using omnifocus to put all my ideas and create projects there, love Amy Landino’s idea of calendar blocking and pomodoro app (it sets the timer and you should work without distractions!).
I completely agree with the points you mentioned here. The time management is important, as when we learn that we will have time for more things to experience in our lives. 🙂
I think a lot of people are afraid to say no. We just have to remember that if it will cause you too much stress, you can’t give your best to them anyway!
I feel like I am always trying to improve my time management! But I think overall, I am pretty good about learning to say no to people.
I love to help people out and sometimes I forget to leave time for my self. Sometimes I take on too much and leave time for me to get a break. I need to learn to say no at times and make time for “me”. Great post thanks for sharing.
I think it is really hard learning to say no but it is such an important thing that we all need to learn to do
Learning to say no is so hard! I’ve been working on this for a while now. I don’t even know how it started, haha! I’m not a people pleaser. But I still have a hard time with not saying no.
Time management is a big one for me and I’m still working on it. I think I’m getting better. I have to protect my time if I want to be successful.
I can’t agree more with all your insights especially the learn to say No, that is usually the hardest one to master!
Really good lessons here. Always a shame when we have to learn things the hard way but sometimes that’s the only way to learn them
Great post, as usual. For me the hardest thing was to learn to say no.
These are all really important lessons! I can definitely relate, especially the one about time management. I’m the queen of procrastination and sometimes that comes back to bite me.
These are definitely good things to learn. Especially saying, “no”.
Solid lessons. As I get older saying NO gets much easier.
Saying “no” is very important to productivity and fulfillment. Often people will sacrifice something important to them in order to please someone else. Rest and self-care are incredibly important!
Learning to say no is huge!!! I had to learn that one the hard way too
I seriously couldnt agree more with all three points, especially the last two. It took me a while to come to terms that I can’t say yes always. I have to be selective so that I can find some balance that works for me. It’s liberating to say the least.
These are all very important lessons. I think many of us have learned them the hard way however I think that helps make them more valuable lessons to us!
It’s okay to make mistakes as long as we learn from it. It’s great that you finally figure them out at an early age.
Learning to say no is something that I really need to try to do myself. I feel like I’m always overcommitting myself!
Saying no is really hard for me to say because I was thinking that I can offend a person if I say that word to the person but now, I already learned to say it and it really gives me a relief.
Learning to say No in the right way is a good thing, it’s never good to try and please everyone
Saying no is such a hard skill to learn.
Time management is so important. And so difficult to master all at the same time!!!! I’m constantly working on it. Lol
3 crucial tips to be successful and living happily in our life. Time management is important and should prioritize things and do what’s important. The no.2 tips will make us happier as we stop blaming others or hope others will help us solve them.
I strongly disagree with point #2, as it’s never a good idea to bottle your problems up – perhaps you meant more specifically not to share your problems with everyone in your life, i.e. workplace, etc.; but everybody needs someone to vent to, to bounce ideas off, to help them through. Family and close friends have pulled me through some very difficult times in my life, and I’m so grateful for them 🙂
I can relate to #2 a lot because I have been receiving a lot of problems lately. I have to be the commander and try to find the root of the problem and solution by myself.
The hardest I find for us to do is say no, we always want to please people, but sometimes you just have to say no!
What a great post! I think the best way to learn is on your own mistakes (even though some people tend to learn from others)! I also think that your problem is a problem as long as you treat it as a problem. It’s all in our heads!
Learning to say no was probably the hardest one for me. I always want to say yes, but sometimes it is better to say no and be firm about it.
Time management is something I’ve learned the hard way, too! When you have a lot to juggle, it can be hard to prioritize. Thanks for great tips!
Amen!! These are well needed tips in your personal or professional life!
Very good…realizations! Important in anyone’s life!
I truly believe you learned by your mistakes, no matter in personal or professional life. No need to think you have to be perfect in any ways. Good luck!
Saying no is quite liberating. I used to have difficulty saying no because I wanted to please everyone. That is until I learned that it’s impossible to make everyone happy. Saying no more often has made me happier actually. xo, Suzanne
I agree with your 3 points. I use them in my daily life too. great advice here
I definitely need to learn to say no in certain situations! I never want to upset anyone
Yes! You could put know to say NO at first! It’s really the worst problem, nowadays with all the influences we have.
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I think saying no is my main issue, as much as I should be saying it, I end up thinking of what people would think if I don’t comply. I will be stopping that though.
Those are all lessons that most of us will learn the hard way. It’s not something you can really understand until you are faced with them.
Saying no helps you to define who you are for sure. It is a hard thing to do at times because no one wants to say no. We want to say yes because we want to be helpful. But it’s so useful to say no because it helps us to put boundaries on who we are and what others expect from us.
100% right about not making your problems someone else’s. It can be hard at times, but it is a good reminder.
Ha! I learn everything the hard way, it seems. I still am working on saying NO more often, it’s easy to say no to people that I’m close to, but people who don’t know me for some reason it’s harder to say NO? I don’t know why I’m like that, gotta work on it! I am all about balance and time management though, working from home as a freelance writer/blogger since 2006 I have had to learn Time Management to raise three kids on this income successfully 😉
Time management is super important especially after having kids! That has been something I have had to learn the hard way.
Nice post! Yeah i can deffo relate…I need to learn to say no sometimes in order to have me time but also because i struggle to manage my time too! i try to jam too much in one day and end being exhausted. Cheers for sharing your experience.
My mummy needs to learn to say no more and try not to accommodate everyone as she always feels stressed. Great tips.
These are all so very true, life sure is a balancing act isn’t it! Great tips
Yes, it is very important to set boundaries and say No in order to protect our time and energy. Time management is super important!
I need to keep reminding myself about these three things. They are all hard ones.
The number 1 and 3, I can totally relate with them too. Still struggling with them! Great post nonetheless.
These are all good points. I hear you about your problems versus others problems. I think a lot of it really has to do with where we are in our lives. One person may be a new parent, another is in college, etc – it is hard to relate sometimes.
Love these tips! Time management and saying no are KEY! Thank you for your encouragement.
The reoccurring them of advice I’ve heard lately is that people should learn to say “No.” it’s not that hard for me, but more than anything else I need to learn how to mark smarter and faster.
Love the one about saying no!! I think we all live to please and we don’t think saying no is an option because we don’t want to let anyone down! But we need to sometimes say no when we don’t agree or when we’ve taken on to much
At least they were lessons learned! It is important to learn from things the first time!
These are all great and some things that i’ve learned as well!!!! Thank you so much for sharing.
Learning to say not is a big problem for many people. People want to please, but spreading yourself too thin helps nobody. No is a great skill to develop.
Such a great read for me, learning to say no is really the hardest things for me to do but now I am trying my best to say that word.
I have to agree that each of those things are solid lessons we all learn in life over time. If you learn them the hard way, you are surely less likely to forget. Nice post giving your readers an insight into your personality.
It’s really hard to say no especially I am a people pleaser
Saying NO and acknowledging that it’s a full sentence and I don’t need to explain myself is one of those things I still am reminding myself.
Learning to say no is so important in managing your time. It’s hard for me to say no and sometimes I end up with a full schedule.
Those things are very important to ourlife. And I think time management is the best important things because it will make the work more easily.
Saying no is something that I really need to work on.
These are three great lessons. I’m still working on these myself…number three is so important.
OOOH I hear you! I have learned these lessons the hard way too.
Such a great post. Thx for sharing
Yes! I couldn’t agree more! Our problems are our own! Very true statement! These are great.
I find that when I try to do too many things at the same time, I end up being less productive and taking longer to complete my to do list. Now I am so much more focussed and prioritise what is most important over what can wait a bit. After getting close to the point of burn out I realized that even though I had days off from a stressful job, I still didn’t make time to pamper myself and set about to change that. I am much more stress free these days 🙂
Great post! I agree that all of these things are very important.
These three things were hard to learn for me too! Especially the “saying no” part!
These are all great lessons. Learning to say No is one of the best lessons I could ever learn.
I have a terrible time saying no to people – I moan like hell because I am constantly being put upon yet still I never say no.
This is such an insightful post! I really enjoyed reading it, and learned from it too. Thank you!
One of my favorite teachers always says life is loved forward but can only be understood backwards.
I agree with #3 – knowing when to say no is important. I didn’t take this advice until I was older and it let people walk all over me.
It took me so long to get on the no train. Learning to say no has been a huge accomplishment for me. Still need to work on other areas… 🙂
I could not agree more with all of your insights!! For me it is especially hard to say No, and I am still learning that and also time management
Such a great post. These important words are we need to remember every single time.
Learning to say NO is one of the things I still need work on as I love to help everyone.
All three of these are lessons that I’ve learned the hard way and lessons that I am extremely grateful for!
I think number 3, learning to say no is so relatable. I always say yes to everything but lately I’ve been saying no and my life has been so much easier and less-stressful
It is great to know that you learn these things on time. I somehow manage my time and understand that my problems are the only mine but say no is one of the toughest things for me
I agree with all three points mentioned in this post. Number three was probably the hardest one to accomplish but I am able to say no even if reluctantly I still say it!
those are 3 great lessons… The one I need to work on more is saying no (I for some reason feel guilty saying no! blah!)
These are all great tips. You are very right, time management is everything. I know there isn’t enough time in the day to get everything we need done, but time management definitely helps a lot!
Great post! I still til this day am learning how to say no… I think that might be a very hard one for everyone.
Time management and saying no are key points for me. However, I have to get better at saying no as sometimes it’s so hard to do so when your family/loved ones are in the picture.
What a wonderful post! Sometimes it’s better to learn the hard way, it can serve as a wake up call for sure. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Oh definitely! I couldn’t agree more about your comment about time management! It’s such a necessity, especially in today’s world!
Learning to say no is a struggle for me. It’s probably the hardest on your list for me to abide by. I’m getting better at it.
It took me many years to learn to say no since I always hated disappointing others. However, it is important, especially when it comes to your self-care.
We need to stop agreeing to things all the time and learn to say no more often!
I love that you talked about saying no. It’s such an important concept to learn. Great tips
i hear that your problem is your problem loud and clear. Its not that others cant help or hear you but we all have to marninate that WE have to be in tune with out problems
These are things I learnt later in adulthood especially learning to say no and your problems are your own. I’ve learnt self love over these last few years.
These learning are very important in life and I guess I learned a lot from this.
Yes..most of us learn these three lessons the hard way…most rather refuse to.learn…stay bless d Monidipa
Completely agree with these! Learning that your problem is your problem is important but I think it’s also important to remember that others may go through similar so you aren’t necessarily the only person with that issue!
These are such important lessons to learn. I’m rubbish at saying no to things – I really need to work on that!
Wish I’d read this 10 years ago…I wonder if everyone must go through these lessons personally, like we’re wired for the had lessons, or if they can just read your words and avoid wasted time. It would be nice if we listened more! Thank you for helping!
I agreed with your points especially learning to say ‘No’. People start taking you easy and don’t bother your feelings when you always say ‘yes’.
All true! It will be Time management for me. There’s a lot of shoulda-coulda-woulda scenarios. I should have started a long time ago. I could have done blah-blah-blah or I would have done blah-blah-blah.
Agree with you on each and every point. I am working very hard to say NO. I know its difficult but I am sure soon I will learn this. Very well written post. Thanks for sharing this
I am perfectly good with my time management and resolving my problem but I can say, saying NO is the big issue for me. It is so hard for me to say that because I am always thinking that when I say that people will no longer like me but my husband told me that it is okay to say NO and that is not a bad thing to do.
All very valid points as they all have an effect on life in general and they are so related to each other. You need time to mind your own business and saying no gives you the ability to manage your time better.
Such important lessons! Learning how to say no really is a great skill that not many have.
These are very key lessons, and thanks for the reminder..time management is number one for me because I usually have so much on my plate
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