Panic attack is the sudden beginning of serious dread or
inconvenience that achieves a top inside minutes and incorporates no less than
four of the accompanying manifestations: Palpitations, beating heart, or
quickened pulse. Perspiring. Trembling or shaking. Impressions of shortness of
breath or covering.
In spite of the fact that the correct reasons for or inconvenience are unclear, the inclination to have it keeps running in families, for example, the passing of a friend or family member, separation, or employment misfortune can likewise trigger the panic attack. It than four be of breath caused by therapeutic conditions and other physical causes.
There are several symptoms of panic attack some of which areas follows:
Feeling powerless, black out, or woozy.
Shivering or deadness in the hands and fingers.
The feeling of dread, or looming fate or passing.
Feeling sweat-soaked or having chills.
Feeling lost control.
There are seven ways to stop panic attack, which are:
Utilize profound relaxing.
Perceive that you’re having a fit of anxiety.
Close your eyes.
Learn to focus on positive things.
Utilize muscle unwinding procedures.
Picture being happy.
For the treatment of Panic Attack, Behavioral therapy and medication both are recommended.
She: Why do I have to text you always? Why isn’t there any initiation from your side?
He: I have been really busy.
She: You are always busy. Sorry for bothering you.
He: I never said that you bother me. I am sorry if I have
made you feel so.
She: You know what love, you have changed.
He: Love, I am really trying not to.
She: Take Care.
He: Look, I am not an insomniac like you are. I just can’t.
She: Did I ever ask you to?
He: No you never asked but you always wanted it.
She: Don’t misinterpret me. I know you have a hard life but I work too.
He: You actually never understood me.
She (hurt): If that makes you happy, then fine.
And then she stopped texting him. All because she felt she was ignored and she was tired of getting hurt. Whereas he remained confused that where he went wrong, he never wanted to hurt her.
Now………….. You must be thinking that the guy got bored with her. Believe me, she might have thought the same. Maybe his feelings vanished and he was unaware of that.
It is very natural, it happens. The thing which those two did not understand that disappeared between them was communication. He should have simply conveyed to her whatever was going on his mind but he did not open up no matter whatever the reasons had been. And she remained stubborn because it would hurt her ego too for further argument. As a result, she was hurt enough to walk away, and he kept on misunderstanding her. A story that could have a beautiful climax had a painful ending.
Look we like people, fall in love, sometimes feelings stay, sometimes it vanishes, unwillingly may be. Rollo May said in one of his quotes, “Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.”. So rather than avoiding the other person speak up whatever is going on your mind because communication can solve any problem and it gives a closure too. A closure is imperative so that every individual can grieve and afterward proceed on with their lives.
One suggestion to everyone, no matter what you feel, what you want to do just SPEAK UP! Do not keep a person hanging because it may affect them in a way where their self-confidence may get affected.
I think that is all for today on withlovemonitoday for you all. Try not to hurt anyone, because not everybody is strong enough as they might claim to be.
Oh, by the way, check out David Elliott’s blog Single Dad’s guide to life because I am extremely thankful to him for the dialogues I used here above, all the credit for the dialogues goes to him and he is too lovely.
Approximately 1 million people commit suicide each year. Suicide is an edgy endeavour to avoid enduring that has turned out to be horrendous. Blinded by sentiments of self-hatred, sadness, and disengagement, a self-destructive individual can’t perceive any method for discovering help with the exception of through death. In any case, regardless of their longing for the agony to stop, most self-destructive individuals are profoundly at odds about closure their own lives. They wish there was an option in contrast to suicide, yet they can’t see one. A self-destructive individual may not request help, but rather that doesn’t imply that assistance isn’t needed. Individuals who end their lives would prefer not to kick the bucket, they simply need to quit harming. Suicide anticipation begins with perceiving the notice signs and considering them important. On the off chance that you think a companion or relative is thinking about suicide, you may be reluctant to raise the subject. In any case, speaking straightforwardly about self-destructive musings and sentiments can spare an existence. Today in withlovemoni.com lets learn everything that we should know about a suicidal person.
Facts about a suicidal person which you should know
Indeed, even the most extremely discouraged individual has blended sentiments about death, faltering until the plain last minute between needing to live and needing to kick the bucket. Most self-destructive individuals don’t need passing; they need the torment to stop. The drive to end everything, anyway overwhelming, does not keep going forever.
individuals are not maniacal or crazy. They should be vexed, despondency
struck, discouraged or hopeless, however extraordinary misery and passionate
torment are not really indications of dysfunctional behavior.
suicide casualties have demonstrated that the greater part had looked for
restorative help in a half-year preceding their passings.
Suicide Cautioning Signs Includes
Discussing suicide – Any discussion about suicide, biting the dust, or self-hurt, for example, “I wish I wasn’t conceived,” “On the off chance that I see you again…” and “I’d be in an ideal situation dead.”
Searching out deadly
means – Seeking access to firearms, pills, blades, or different articles that
could be utilized in a suicide endeavor.
Distraction with death
– Unusual spotlight on death, passing on, or brutality. Composing lyrics or
tales about death.
No desire for the
future – Feelings of powerlessness, misery, and being caught (“There’s no
chance to get out”). A conviction that things will never improve or
self-loathing – Feelings of uselessness, blame, disgrace, and self-loathing.
Having a feeling that a weight (“Everyone would be in an ideal situation
altogether – Making out a will. Giving without end prized belonging. Making
courses of action for relatives.
Saying farewell –
Unusual or startling visits or calls to family and companions. Saying farewell
to individuals as though they won’t be seen once more.
Pulling back from
others – Withdrawing from loved ones. Expanding social confinement. Want to be
Foolish conduct –
Increased liquor or medication utilize careless driving, risky sex. Accepting
superfluous dangers as though they have a “desire to die.”
A sudden feeling of calmness – A sudden feeling of calmness and satisfaction in the wake of being greatly discouraged can imply that the individual has settled on a choice to endeavor suicide.
Suicide Level Risk
Low – Some self-destructive musings. No suicide plan. Says he or she won’t endeavor suicide.
Direct – Suicidal
musings. An ambiguous arrangement that isn’t extremely deadly. Says he or she
won’t endeavor suicide.
High – Suicidal
musings. A particular arrangement that is very deadly. Says he or she won’t
Extreme – Suicidal
musings. A particular arrangement that is profoundly deadly. Says he or she
will endeavor suicide.
In the event that a
suicide endeavor appears to be unavoidable, call a nearby emergency focus, dial
911, or take the individual to a crisis room. Expel weapons, medications,
blades, and other possibly deadly questions from the region yet don’t, under
any conditions, leave alone a self-destructive individual.
Things You Can Do For a Suicidal Person
Get professional help. Do everything possible to get a self-destructive individual the assistance he or she needs. Call an emergency line for guidance and referrals. Urge the individual to see an emotional well-being proficient, help find a treatment office, or take them to a medical checkup.
treatment. In the event that the specialist endorses a solution, ensure your
companion or adored one accepts it as coordinated. Know about conceivable
symptoms and make certain to inform the doctor if the individual is by all
accounts deteriorating. It frequently requires investment and determination to
discover the pharmaceutical or treatment it’s hard to believe, but it’s true
for a specific individual.
Be proactive. Those
thinking about suicide frequently don’t trust they can benefit from outside
intervention, so you may be more proactive at offering help. Saying, “Call
me on the off chance that you require anything” is excessively dubious.
Try not to sit tight for the individual to call you or even to restore your
calls. Drop by, call once more, and welcome the individual out.
Support a positive way
of life changes, for example, a sound eating routine, a lot of rest, and
getting out in the sun or into nature for something like 30 minutes every day.
Exercise is additionally critical as it discharges endorphins, eases the
pressure, and advances enthusiastic prosperity.
Remember your awareness can save your beloved ones.
Psychopaths are everywhere. Many are violent criminals but many more are not. You can find them everywhere: in the office next door, at school, or while dating. They are EVERYWHERE.
A psychopath is defined as someone who inflicts pain, misery and sometimes death on others with no conscience or empathy. No one knows exactly what causes psychopathy. Psychopathy is also sometimes known as psychopathic personality disorder and is considered a mental illness. As with mental illness in general, there is no known cure for psychopathy.
In short, psychopaths are predators, and we are prey, and they feel as much compassion and empathy for others as wolves feel for sheep. They lie, manipulate, bully, and seduce to get what they want, caring nothing for those they trample in the process. Given these characteristics, it’s no wonder that even non-violent psychopaths leave a trail of shattered lives in their wakes. They are the unscrupulous coworker who plays the boss, takes credit for your work, and stabs you in the back with a smile. The charmer who moves in with a girlfriend, sucks her dry financially, and then cruelly spits her out and moves on. Emotionally leaves a person dead by mentally torturing them and then pretend to be victims.
So what can you do to identify a psychopath?
First, it’s important to understand how psychopaths operate, so you don’t think you’re imagining things when a charming, harmless-looking colleague acts in a more ruthless and unscrupulous manner than you could otherwise possibly imagine. And the more you know about yourself—your vulnerabilities and your potential value to whomever might attempt to use you—the better off you’ll be. Also, judge people by their actions, not their words. For example, does a romantic partner promise you riches while constantly borrowing your money? Finally, get second opinions. A psychopath who wants to use you will find a way to win you over, but may show more of his or her true self to your friends and colleagues. If you get repeated warnings that the person you’re dealing with isn’t what he or she seems, consider investigating further.
As population densities increase and tensions rise, society is increasingly vulnerable to those who are utterly ruthless and without conscience. While there are no easy answers when it comes to the psychopaths among us, the better we can understand what makes a psychopath tick, the better we can protect ourselves from the destructive impact of this condition.
That’s all for this week. See you next week until then Stay Safe and Take Care.
For references you can also visit www.physiciansnews.com & www.scienceofpeople.com
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I was going through an article on www.youthkiawaaz.com, that what are the stereotypes about working women, two points caught my eyes because I can relate to them. Which are:
1: Women With Ambitions Are Somehow Of Bad Character And Attract Unnecessary Attention From Men.
2: Careers For Women Are Also Pre-defined – Teaching, Nursing, Medical Doctors. Not Acceptable – Journalism, TV, Field Reporting, Etc.
Well in my case I am from a small town in West Bengal. I don’t stay at my hometown anymore because of my career.
In 2017 in the same hometown of mine I started facing some issues regarding bank, so I asked for help from an almost influential person. Whereas, when it came to the solution of that problem the person whom I approached ofcourse told everyone he was helping me because I was spotted with him on our way to the bank.
He couldn’t help obviously. So I gave up on him. On the very next day he called me up and then used these words, “Women are not fit enough for journalism and tv” (I used to work in a channel at that point of time) and he didn’t help me because that could have affected his family’s reputation. I didn’t answer him back because I didn’t want to get into any argument. Later on, on my gutts I solved that issue.
After some days he texted and apologised for his words.
Later on he started discussing my work related stuff with me.
One fine day he told me “Ladies who work don’t have a good character and you can easily sleep with people to reach somewhere”. I replied with a smiling smiley and blocked him from everywhere. Tbh that day, I wanted to break his face. Because during my entire career it was known by people who worked with me that I had been a hard worker.
Well, to be straight forward enough, ladies don’t need to sleep around to reach somewhere. That is what some people don’t understand due to their cheap mentality.
There are more stereotypes. If you have male friends, you don’t have a character. You work late at night you are characterless. These issues are not only faced by ladies in cities but small town girls mostly face it.
Many girls from my hometown or other small towns come to me till date with same issue which they face in their area because these girls dared to work in a challenging field. Some are my juniors. Some know me somehow.
Only suggestion which I have always given and I still give is: An empty mind is devil’s workshop and people who are unable to achieve anything will always criticise you.
There are two major reasons for their way of thinking these stuff are: either they never had a working lady in a challenging field at home or they couldn’t take advantage of you.
In my case it was the second thing.
Ladies never let these people get into your mind. If you are truly careeristic ignore it. Your career should matter to you not what these people say.
It’s your life be daring enough to take your own decisions and fight for it. Because ladies always remember you are worth it.
Rabindranath Tagore, some have heard and read about him some have not. Last week was his birthday. He was born in Calcutta on 7th May 1861 and died on 7th August 1941 in Calcutta. He was a Proud Indian He was a Writer, song composer, playwright, essayist, painter. And he received Novel Prize for ‘Gitanjali’ in the year 1913.
Honestly speaking on my blog today I won’t write what everyone knows or can read about him. This is my blog so today I will write what I truly feel, what I truly think about him.
I had read about him since my childhood. My Grandpa used to say one cannot finish reading his works during his/her whole lifetime. Of course he had written a lot. I somehow could feel whatever he might have felt during writing either a sad poetry or a love poem.
Many bengali people in India love him but some hate him. I remember, last year a renowned camera person from a renowned channel told me there’s no point in loving that man’s work because he got whatever he had because he was born in a rich family.
I didn’t respond him, I just smiled. Of course I could have argued with him because I have read him since my childhood. But I couldn’t make him understand what I exactly feel about Rabindranath Tagore.
If any artist is reading this then my question to you would be, have you seen Rabindranath Tagore’s old age photograph? If yes have you looked deep into his eyes? What do you see?
It is said that eyes of a human reflects everything about that person, I am not sure about others but about Rabindranath Tagore it was applicable. His emotions would be easily understandable from him eyes. I personally avoid looking in his eyes of his picture. Do you know what I see?
He might have recieved everything a man ever wants or wanted but his eyes says he was in agony, in deep pain which he couldn’t share with anyone. His eyes say he wanted peace. His eyes depict, only if he could turn over the time.
There are many portraits about him. Many people draw about him. I only sketched once about him because I can’t draw those eyes. I can’t draw that pain, that hurt. I can’t. I only sketched about him once in my lifetime but for me that was worse because I felt like thousands of knives were hitting me.
I have never seen him but I feel like as if I have known him since ages. May be it’s common.
Many “FAMOUS” people would say ,”Ah, that’s very normal”, if I share my true feelings about what I feel about Rabindranath Tagore. But my question is do you feel connected to him like I do? Do you feel like you have known him always like I do? Do you?
Honestly speaking he isn’t my favourite writer or poet or painter but still I love reading his works. This reminds me of one more incident in 2017 while I was working as a journalist, my senior asked me about one of the phrases of Rabindranath Tagore’s work “Ghore Baire”, a lady who sort of hated me commented, “How would she know about it? You asked the wrong person”, and she chuckled. My senior knowing me well then told her, “Why don’t you answer it then”, she didn’t have any answer to it. I simply completed the phrase and told him the other required details and left the room.
You know I didn’t feel victorious that day because she couldn’t answer it and I knew about it. I was extremely hurt because I can’t portray my feelings.
I know whoever reads it might feel it boring because for the very first time ever I have revealed this side of me but one thing I would say Rabindranath Tagore was really a great man. Not because I know it but because I feel it.
A quote by him, “Who are you, reader, reading my poems an hundred years hence? I cannot send you one single flower from this wealth of the spring, one single streak of gold from yonder clouds. Open your doors and look abroad. From your blossoming garden gather fragrant memories of the vanished flowers of an hundred years before. In the joy of your heart may you feel the living joy that sang one spring morning, sending its glad voice across an hundred years.”
Today I will share a story of a girl Meika. Well, her father passed away in 2016 when she was 21 years. She just completed her Master’s degree and started working in a respectable position as a journalist. Her mother passed away when she was 18 years old. She never had any siblings as such. Relatives were there who loved her but Meika believed in keeping them away from her. But, she was a strong girl though.
On a fine november night after dinner she opened her facebook account. She noticed there was a friend request. She opened that page and was shocked to see the name. It was from Aniket.
Aniket was Meika’s first crush, first love when she was in std 9. She could never move on from him. Though Aniket never knew about her love for him. She never dated in her entire college. Never even wanted to get married because the man she fell for was a self claimed saint.
Seeing his account made her fall in love with him again. She accepted his request. She didn’t message him though she kept an eye on his account.
On a Tuesday evening Meika updated some pictures of her on Facebook. And for the very first time Aniket commented. As soon as Meika saw it she jumped out of her couch with excitement. But, she composed herself though and replied only a smiley of smile to him. That night Aniket messaged her. And first time they spoke to each other. Aniket was a smooth talker. And Meika was already in love with him so she easily got flattered. She remembered the day the first time she saw him in Indian Ethnic dress, she fell badly for him. She never got a chance to get close to him as they were from same colony but he was a politician’s brother, and now her dream has come true.
As days and months passed by, their chatting increased. Affection towards eachother increased. And this time Meika decided to take a leave from work to go back to her home town to meet Aniket.
So on a weekend she went back to the city where she spent her childhood. But she decided to stay in a hotel rather than her own house. That evening Aniket came to the hotel where Meika was residing. Meika met him in the reception of the hotel. He took her to his place which he had converted into his study on his bike. Though Meika hated bikes but she couldn’t say no to him. After they reached at Aniket’s place. They sat and were talking about work, about hobbies in the meantime Meika’s phone rang. As it was a call from work she had to attend it. She excused herself and went nearby the window while speaking. After done as soon as she turned back she saw Aniket standing very close to her and Meika turned towards him he hugged her. As Meika loved him badly she melted in her arms. And then she initiated a kiss on his lips. They made out passionately that evening. For Meika it was her dream come true. And for Aniket a score. That night Aniket insisted her to stay with him but she didn’t she went back to the hotel. Ofcourse Aniket dropped her.
Meika slept like a baby that night because her dream came true.
Next day morning Aniket called her up and behaved abnormally. She informed him that she was having lunch at her best friends place. He got extremely possessive and even abused her in anger. Meika just said one sentence, “I believe we are yet not in a relationship, so why are you being possessive”. To which Aniket replied, “Because your best friend is a guy”. Meika was shocked to hear that. She decided to cancel the lunch and went to Aniket’s place to meet him. They met he said they can’t be together and they can only have sexual relationship. Meika was broken badly but as because she was good in hiding her emotions declined his offer.
In one moment her feelings for him changed and now she wants to avenge him at any cost.
See people I gave this example of Meika and Aniket because what we often fail to remember is that we are humans. Love and hate both are a part of that emotion. But there is a very thin line between love and hate. If love can make us blind hatred too can do that. So avoid all this. Because is a part of life. Stay happy and keep others happy.