Beware of Narcissists

Narcissistic personality disorder is one of a few sorts of identity issue — is a psychological condition in which individuals have their very own expanded feeling significance, a profound requirement for extreme consideration and adoration, agitated connections, and an absence of compassion for other people.

Narcissistic identity issue is discovered all the more generally in men. The reason is obscure however likely includes a blend of hereditary and ecological elements. Side effects incorporate an intemperate requirement for esteem, negligence for others’ emotions, a powerlessness to deal with any feedback and a feeling of qualification.

The indications of narcissistic identity issue include: vainglorious feeling of significance, distraction with boundless achievement, conviction that one is extraordinary and novel, exploitative of others, absence of sympathy and extreme arrogance. These people are also known as soul-less as they cannot feel any pain of anyone and are extreme ruthless. They have an unrealistic sense of superiority. Their mind is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited successpower, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.

Narcissists are ace controllers and will endeavor to make you feel both regretful and debilitated. They are extremely selfish and believe that they deserve certain privileges because they are unique. But ultimately the narcissists need self-esteem. They need trust in themselves and experience torment as a result of it. The external shell of narcissism is only their method for adapting to it.

Though treatment can help but there is no cure to it.

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How is it to Live With a Narcissist?

Similarity and collaboration among narcissism and bipolar vainglory. Somebody who presents with narcissistic identity attributes can be hard to recognize from somebody who is encountering mellow to direct hypomania (bipolar inclination rise less intense than full craziness) with the pompous view of self.

Now I have a very great experience with a narcissist, and I am just sharing this to clarify how these people exactly function. But if you are thinking of sympathizing then don’t. I have already overcome it and I am glad that I had experienced it.

I won’t go into all the details but just to keep it short, It was just after my mom died this guy was staying at our house as a friend because his office was far from his house and our house was near. Many things happened, it became verbal, then physical abuse. He had frustration over me about certain things, the biggest issue was I never got sexually involved with him. He also had an issue that my best friend is a guy. I was tortured on a daily basis. He burnt my feet once then there are several cut marks on my left arm which he did with the knife. There is a mark of a stab of the left arm beside the bullet mark. Often my classmates would point out fingerprints on my neck, arms. He hit on my arms, legs but never on my face. He had an issue when I accomplished something, he showed me off as a trophy, and he behaved as if he owned me. At least I am lucky he never raped me to be extremely honest. Later things got bad and I had to tell my dad.

In 2016 when my dad died and after 20 days when everyone came to know that, he contacted me via email. He mocked my father’s death and said that I deserved to be an orphan. Usually, it is impossible to hurt me but those words affected me. I slit my wrist and tried to drown myself in my bathtub but I was saved. It was as if those words stuck in my head and again I tried to commit suicide again by gulping sleeping pills. I was saved again. I became suicidal. I tried talking to my senior doctors but I could not speak out about my problems with them. A good friend of mine counselled me.

I never knew that being in a relationship with a narcissist would affect me so bad. He is the reason that now no matter how much pain is inflicted upon me they don’t hurt me anymore. He stopped contacting me after my accident in May ’17.

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Narcissistic relationships tend to be very challenging. Narcissistic partners usually have difficulty really loving someone else, because they don’t truly love themselves.  They are so focused on themselves that they cannot really “see” their partner as a separate person.  Ending a relationship with a narcissist is incredibly difficult, for many reasons. 


Narcissistic partners don’t want to let their prey go easily. I believe that there is no point in running away from a narcissistic partner, just face them. No matter what just face them for your sake atleast.

I guess, that’s all for today.

Stay safe, take care.

Me in 2013
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How to Deal with a Broken Heart

Many of us have been through bad relationships. Some had dated narcissists and some had dated psychopaths and some had dated normal people but the relationship became toxic. Today here we will talk about the relationships with narcissists and psychopaths. First of all, let me tell you, these people are not at all perfect for relationships. These individuals are not your ordinary accomplice. They suffer from trauma deeper than anyone can only imagine. Consequently, being involved with a narcissist or a sociopath will definitely exchange their sufferings to you. Such a relationship crushes you from inside and, when you have acknowledged what harm has been done, it’s past the point where it is possible to leave. Be that as it may, it doesn’t mean you can’t return to your earlier self – you can, however, it requires a lot of exertion!

Let me be honest, I have been with both kind of people, a psychopath and a narcissist, I lost myself with time. I was so afraid of meeting new people that I used to push them away. I told people that I’m a sociopath (they believed it. Lol) until I met the right man recently. As I have from my past experiences I have jotted the issues which I had faced, and some I face till now.

But before I start putting up the points let me tell you that it is not easy to recognize the toxic or harmful relationship they are persevering until the point that their limit. Envision remaining in a relationship where you are persuaded that you would be hopeless without the other. You are constantly blameworthy of something, you are being disgraced and called awkward– all the pessimism which nobody merits. What they make you feel lives profound inside you and can have a consistently enduring effect.

So here is how you will feel even when you have been successful in drifting apart from your narcissistic partner.

Unable to trust

When you extraordinarily trust somebody and that trust breaks, you think that it is difficult to return to that equivalent dimension of trust. This doubt reaches out past the individual who caused it – you end up dubious of nearly everybody around you.

Incapable to Love

No one loves being utilized. It feels dreadful acknowledging you have been there for somebody through various challenges, however, the sum total of what they have been doing is utilizing you to support their inner self and narcissism. It is the thing that happens when you are involved with narcissistic individuals – they make it seem as though it is your inadequacy which divided them. You don’t feel sufficient and always feel like you don’t merit anybody’s affection or time. Also, when you feel so terrible about your own-self, how might you like others and discover them loveable?

Feeling Empty from Inside

When you have been enamored with somebody, you feel a void inside yourself when you separation. It’s as though you have given a bit of yourself to another person. In this way, when you are involved with a narcissist and give them all that you can, you would feel extremely void. In spite of knowing the way that the person was harmful, you would miss him since you were genuine with him from the beginning. You would feel like in the event that you begin another relationship, you would wind up nevertheless.

But as time passes you will learn some new things too.

Time is the best healer

Nothing changes medium-term and an effect as extreme as the one a narcissist will abandon, it will request a massive measure of time before things return to ordinary. You should stay ardent and enable yourself to dispose of the poisonous quality that the past relationship drew on you. Your mind should be available to changes and grasp the way that all the awful stuff is previously and you have to proceed onward.

Figure out how to love yourself once more

Keep in mind, mending begins from self-esteem. It is presumably the best of remedies for everything, particularly to feel commendable. Just when you cherish yourself will you have the capacity to adore others? You have to deal with yourself first and after that consider others. It will resemble finding yourself once more!

Believe in yourself

Since a narcissist or psychopath would make you feel terrible about your own self and contemptible, you should trust in yourself. You should think about the way that you endure a staggering relationship and that you are sufficiently able to persevere through these occasions. Maybe you will turn out more grounded and stronger than at any other time. The key is to have confidence in your own quality.

Remember one thing, even though it might seem as if it is the end of the world, and you will not be the same person again. But remember that it is all a part of life and now at least you away from danger.

I guess that’s enough from my side for today, see you soon again.

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