She: Why do I have to text you always? Why isn’t there any initiation from your side?
He: I have been really busy.
She: You are always busy. Sorry for bothering you.
He: I never said that you bother me. I am sorry if I have made you feel so.
She: You know what love, you have changed.
He: Love, I am really trying not to.
She: Take Care.
He: Look, I am not an insomniac like you are. I just can’t.
She: Did I ever ask you to?
He: No you never asked but you always wanted it.
She: Don’t misinterpret me. I know you have a hard life but I work too.
He: You actually never understood me.
She (hurt): If that makes you happy, then fine.
And then she stopped texting him. All because she felt she was ignored and she was tired of getting hurt. Whereas he remained confused that where he went wrong, he never wanted to hurt her.
Now………….. You must be thinking that the guy got bored with her. Believe me, she might have thought the same. Maybe his feelings vanished and he was unaware of that.
It is very natural, it happens. The thing which those two did not understand that disappeared between them was communication. He should have simply conveyed to her whatever was going on his mind but he did not open up no matter whatever the reasons had been. And she remained stubborn because it would hurt her ego too for further argument. As a result, she was hurt enough to walk away, and he kept on misunderstanding her. A story that could have a beautiful climax had a painful ending.
Look we like people, fall in love, sometimes feelings stay, sometimes it vanishes, unwillingly may be. Rollo May said in one of his quotes, “Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.”. So rather than avoiding the other person speak up whatever is going on your mind because communication can solve any problem and it gives a closure too. A closure is imperative so that every individual can grieve and afterward proceed on with their lives.
One suggestion to everyone, no matter what you feel, what you want to do just SPEAK UP! Do not keep a person hanging because it may affect them in a way where their self-confidence may get affected.
I think that is all for today on withlovemoni today for you all. Try not to hurt anyone, because not everybody is strong enough as they might claim to be.
Oh, by the way, check out David Elliott’s blog Single Dad’s guide to life because I am extremely thankful to him for the dialogues I used here above, all the credit for the dialogues goes to him and he is too lovely.