Siberian Husky in India

Hey lovelies, I know I am posting way too much since yesterday. But will you believe if I tell you that I met a siberian husky in India?

No… Right? As you know that a Siberian husky can live in 75 degrees below zero Fahrenheit, and right now the temperature in India (Kolkata) is more than 83 degrees Fahrenheit, now that means way too hot. Though he is kept in a air-conditioned house.

Now let me tell you, I came back to India today and as I am a restless soul I got back to my regular stuff. I met this 6 months handsome guy while I was waiting for my uber. 

Now those who know me well and my love for these sweehearts, before you ask me, let me tell you I didn’t let this sweetheart come upon me because of only one reason I needed a shower and it was way too hot and I was sweating like hell.  All thanks to Mr. Pallav Mitra and Mr. Biswarup Dutta for these amazing clicks.

That was a lovely meeting I will say as it took all my tiredness away. Now at least I know one thing I can get a Siberian husky too or wait, maybe a wolf… Yaaaaaay!!! You never know….! As I am way too unpredictable. Lol!

By the way in other news on 17th and 18th November I will be in L.A, U.S.A for some meeting, I hope to visit some paranormal places too, obviously for my paranormal niche.

So that’s all from me today. See you on Sunday.

Unsaid Words

Copyright: With Love Moni

I’m here, alone, with simply the vivid shadows I had always wanted to stay with me.

Be that as it may, I feel inebriated when you’re with me, I hear whispers even in hushes.

Please don’t smash my faith in you, love.


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Disclaimer: I often do not write poetries or snippets. So if you choose to comment on it please be considerate of my feelings as they come out of my heart and they are not pre-written or planned.

Effects of Being Raised by an Alcoholic Parent.

This is a guest post by a lovely lady Almany Parsons. She is from Florida and currently a stay home mom with her 2 sweet girls and teaches online for VIPKID. She has a great knowledge in Psychology so I thought why not use it for a good purpose.

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Growing Up with an Alcoholic as a parent: I thought I was okay.

What is it like growing up with an alcoholic parent?

When you grow up with an alcoholic, you don’t always realize that this is not what it’s like for other children.  You don’t realize that you’re being raised by an alcoholic and that it will impact you for the rest of your life.  You don’t realize, that this is not “normal”.

I remember being shocked when I went to a friend’s house and they actually sat down together to eat, and the adults had sweet tea to drink instead of beer. 

I remember my grandmother having to write a note to my 5th grade teachers, explaining that I was not able to finish my homework the night before because my mother had drunk herself into a drunken rage and we had to lock ourselves in the garage.  That day, we watched movies in class.  As a child, this was fun but as an adult, I look back and wonder if just maybe it had something to do with that note.

As I got older, so many people told me what a great job I was doing despite my mother.  I had straight A’s and was on track to go to college – despite my mother.  I had stayed out of trouble – despite my mother. 

When older adults talk about me even now, it’s always “You’ve overcome so much. I’m so surprised you’ve achieved as much as you have even with all you’ve been through.”

They made it sound like I had survived my childhood and was thriving! They made it sound like I had not been affected by the toxic stress I was exposed to on a daily basis.  They made it sound like I was okay.  AND I BELIEVED THEM. 

I graduated with honors. I went to college.  I got married and had 2 beautiful daughters.  We own our home and do not struggle financially.  I do not struggle with mental illness or depression.  I don’t do drugs.  I’m not involved with the law. 

I am not the stereotype of an addict’s child.  So, I must be okay, right?

What happens to children raised by an alcoholic parent?

 It wasn’t until I was finishing up my bachelor’s degree and taking a class called “Substance Abuse and Mental Health” that I realized, I was incredibly affected by my childhood.  I had always taken so much pride in being successful through everything that had been thrown at me. But, suddenly I was learning that everything I struggled with was a direct result of growing up with my alcoholic mother.

Children raised by an alcoholic parent tend to display similar characteristics and personality traits later in adulthood.  These may include:

Avoiding Conflict – Individuals raised by alcoholics often mistake assertiveness or forms of authority as aggressive and avoid any confrontation in general because of this. After being surrounded by this 24/7 as a child it is easy to come to a pro at avoiding conflict as an adult.

Fear of Losing Control – Growing up with an alcoholic can be a world of chaos and one way that an individual may cope is by controlling the few aspects of their lives that they are able to influence.  This may be other people’s emotions or behaviors, their laundry or even the food that they eat.  There is a constant fear that is they lose control, their lives could become even more chaotic. 

Constant Approval Seeking – Spending an entire childhoodbeing sensitive to their alcoholic caregiver’s emotions often translates intobeing oversensitive to other’s emotions as well.  This leads to fear that someone else may feeluncomfortable because of their own behaviors or image.  The opinions of others are what shape theirself-esteem. 

Difficulty Relaxing/Poor Coping Skills – It is difficult to let go of control and expose their non-perfect vision of themselves; especially when others are watching. Healthy coping skills are not modeled for childrenraised by an alcoholic and they will continue to use poor coping skills intoadulthood.  This can lead to chronicstress and overreaction to change. 

Low Self-Esteem – It is no secret that children of any addict typically harbor low self-esteem. This loops back to the need to seek constant approval and other’s opinions playing such a role on their self-image.

Difficulties with Intimacy – After being lied to and deceived by an alcoholic repeatedly throughout childhood, it can be difficult to trust another individual as many other healthy relationships may have.  It is also difficult to let down the guard that has been put up to prevent disappointment. 

Obsessive Behaviors – It is not uncommon for an individual to obsess over minor things in an attempt to distract themselves from the bigger things happening in their lives – this is especially true for adults who were raised by alcoholics.

Physical Illness – Stress can take a large toll on an individual’s body. This can cause long-term damage for children whoexperiencing this stress during the prime times of their development.  Adults who were raised by alcoholiccaregivers also may lack positive coping skills and as a result use food,drugs, or other unhealthy ways to cope. This often leads to physical illness in adulthood.

Overreaction to Outside Changes – The desires to have control over their world in combination with unhealthy coping skills leads to overreaction to changes that they are not able to control.

That day in my “Substance Abuse and Mental Health” class, I realized that my entire childhood had shaped who I was.  I was directly affected even though all this time I thought I wasn’t.

All of a sudden, it made sense that I was not able to decide to make a big purchase without talking it through with 5 different people and making sure they all agreed it was a good decision.

It made sense that hospitalization of a family member was something I could handle emotionally but the change in last minute plans could cause a panic attack. 

It made sense that I obsessed over planning a dinner or what kind of car to buy and often struggled to make a final decision. 

Instead of developing healthy coping skills and a strong sense of self – as an adult, I am learning the skills I need to overcome many of the anxieties that have become me. 

I realized, that I was in fact largely impacted by my childhood and it was a part of who I was. 

But that is okay; I am okay. 

If you are a child of an alcoholic parent, what are some ways that you have been able to overcome the long-lasting effects of being raised by an addict?

My Point of View

I was in awe after reading this. Well, I would love to know your thoughts too, below in comment box.

Hope to see you soon. Till then Stay Safe and Take Care.

It was our Durga Puja

Our uncle Mr Ashis Mukherjee is an amazingly talented person. This year once again the local people came to know that. How?

Obviously because of his artistic talent.. If you do not believe me check out this video…

Ashis Mukherjee

Will you believe if I say the colonial Durgotsav this year won 7 awards only because of him. The list of awards goes as:

1.‌ TANUSHREE SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

2‌. ONKAR TV SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

‌3. UTKARSH ER SHERA SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

‌4. STAR CEMENT AND EXIDE SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

‌5. HOWRAH PATRIKA SHERA SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

‌6. ROTARY CLUB SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

7‌. CHOTOR DABI PATRIKA SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

These are pretty much well-known awards in West Bengal, India. Picture courtesy goes to my brother Soumyajyoti Mukherjee. Young, yet talented photographer.

They all together make our Family a Flamily-Famealy 

I would love to know your thoughts below in the comments.

Curses or Hexes

I guess this can be a perfect post for Halloween. So coming back to the topic, a curse or a Hex is a pronunciation or a wish made by any supernatural power. The word Hex comes from a German word ‘Hexe’ meaning A Witch. A curse is targeted to a particular person, object or a location. It is also considered as a witchcraft because it has been one of the common practices among the witches.  Unfortunately, to date, it exists. In order to defend yourself, you should know what you are dealing with.

Eventually, there are ways from you can understand that you are cursed.

  • If you are cursed you will suddenly start finding scary objects at your home. This is the most usual tool by dark witches is fear. Because it links people. If you think psychologically when you are convinced that you are cursed you start behaving like that. But no matter what just get rid of the spooky stuff do not keep it with you but do not throw it in a lake.
  • You may find weird symbols in your house. This happens when you are marked by a witch. And it signifies demonic activities. The sigil which you might find can be possibly marked by a knife, which can be a ritual dagger or a paint with magical ink. To protect yourself from it you can erase or remove it and throw Holy Water on it to cleanse it.
  • You might miss photographs especially old ones because it is believed that you might have your aura in them. It acts as a link with you. It can be used for both good and both purposes. Stealing them from your house means it is used for the dark purpose.
  • Missing your very personal items such as underwear, watch, jewelry, etc. As these are very closely connected to you it contents your aura directly which if gets into wrong hands can affect you badly.
  • If you start experiencing random pain. Something which you have never felt before. Go for a medical checkup if your medical reports are alright then you need to beware as someone might have cursed you. You need to monitor the pain that when it had begun during a waning moon or on the night of the full moon. Keep a log with yourself. In this case, you need to clean the shield of your aura.
  • If your plants or trees start dying or get ill. Always remember whenever something evil happens they are the first ones to get affected. Check the soil first.  If required examine the soil. In case you find any unidentified item or liquid cleanse it with Holy Water. If you find any item rather than liquid get rid of it.
  • Pet and animals also start acting weird in these cases liked unusual barking of dogs, unusual spurring of cats. As you might have heard they are more sensitive and can sense things better and more than us humans. In this situation observe their behavior and you need to cleanse your home. Either you can do it yourself with a Holy Water or you can call a priest.

Using Lemon, Salt Water Bath, Use of Selenite and White sages, Rose Water bath can always cure you of any hexes that had been done on you.

Just remember one thing, there is always a way out of every evil thing. Just believe in yourself and do no harm to anyone.

May The Peace Be with You

Stay Blessed

3 things that I have learned the hard way

1: Time Management is Necessary

A good time management is always necessary as it lets you complete or accomplish more in a short period of time, which as a result will give you a lot of time for yourself. And ‘me’ time is very necessary as you can pamper yourself, think of what to do next, pursue your hobbies and most importantly you can spend a quality time with your friends and beloved ones.

2: Your Problem is Your Problem None of Others Problem

Indians after reading this point it can recollect Daisy Shah’s famously trolled dialogue from Race 3, “Our business is our business. None of your business”. However coming back to the point, whatever problems you have in your life they are completely yours. People might listen to your issues if you share it with them but only very few will understand. You are the only person who needs to deal with your issues. No one will understand your pain or issues as you do.

3: Learn to Say No

Saying No is very important because when you constantly say yes or agree with someone they tend to take you for granted, which is not good at all. You can say ‘No’ without being rude too. Remember, at the end of the day loving yourself is most important and saying yes and then stressing over it will only make you sick.

Monidipa Dutta

That’s all from my side today on withlovemoni.com. See you soon again.

Say No to Suicide

Approximately 1 million people commit suicide each year. Suicide is an edgy endeavour to avoid enduring that has turned out to be horrendous. Blinded by sentiments of self-hatred, sadness, and disengagement, a self-destructive individual can’t perceive any method for discovering help with the exception of through death. In any case, regardless of their longing for the agony to stop, most self-destructive individuals are profoundly at odds about closure their own lives. They wish there was an option in contrast to suicide, yet they can’t see one. A self-destructive individual may not request help, but rather that doesn’t imply that assistance isn’t needed. Individuals who end their lives would prefer not to kick the bucket, they simply need to quit harming. Suicide anticipation begins with perceiving the notice signs and considering them important. On the off chance that you think a companion or relative is thinking about suicide, you may be reluctant to raise the subject. In any case, speaking straightforwardly about self-destructive musings and sentiments can spare an existence. Today in withlovemoni.com lets learn everything that we should know about a suicidal person.

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Facts about a suicidal person which you should know

Indeed, even the most extremely discouraged individual has blended sentiments about death, faltering until the plain last minute between needing to live and needing to kick the bucket. Most self-destructive individuals don’t need passing; they need the torment to stop. The drive to end everything, anyway overwhelming, does not keep going forever.

Most self-destructive individuals are not maniacal or crazy. They should be vexed, despondency struck, discouraged or hopeless, however extraordinary misery and passionate torment are not really indications of dysfunctional behavior.

Investigations of suicide casualties have demonstrated that the greater part had looked for restorative help in a half-year preceding their passings.

Suicide Cautioning Signs Includes

Discussing suicide – Any discussion about suicide, biting the dust, or self-hurt, for example, “I wish I wasn’t conceived,” “On the off chance that I see you again…” and “I’d be in an ideal situation dead.”

Searching out deadly means – Seeking access to firearms, pills, blades, or different articles that could be utilized in a suicide endeavor.

Distraction with death – Unusual spotlight on death, passing on, or brutality. Composing lyrics or tales about death.

No desire for the future – Feelings of powerlessness, misery, and being caught (“There’s no chance to get out”). A conviction that things will never improve or change.

Self-hatred, self-loathing – Feelings of uselessness, blame, disgrace, and self-loathing. Having a feeling that a weight (“Everyone would be in an ideal situation without me”).

Getting issues altogether – Making out a will. Giving without end prized belonging. Making courses of action for relatives.

Saying farewell – Unusual or startling visits or calls to family and companions. Saying farewell to individuals as though they won’t be seen once more.

Pulling back from others – Withdrawing from loved ones. Expanding social confinement. Want to be disregarded.

Foolish conduct – Increased liquor or medication utilize careless driving, risky sex. Accepting superfluous dangers as though they have a “desire to die.”

A sudden feeling of calmness – A sudden feeling of calmness and satisfaction in the wake of being greatly discouraged can imply that the individual has settled on a choice to endeavor suicide.

Suicide Level Risk

Low – Some self-destructive musings. No suicide plan. Says he or she won’t endeavor suicide.

Direct – Suicidal musings. An ambiguous arrangement that isn’t extremely deadly. Says he or she won’t endeavor suicide.

High – Suicidal musings. A particular arrangement that is very deadly. Says he or she won’t endeavor suicide.

Extreme – Suicidal musings. A particular arrangement that is profoundly deadly. Says he or she will endeavor suicide.

In the event that a suicide endeavor appears to be unavoidable, call a nearby emergency focus, dial 911, or take the individual to a crisis room. Expel weapons, medications, blades, and other possibly deadly questions from the region yet don’t, under any conditions, leave alone a self-destructive individual.

Things You Can Do For a Suicidal Person

Get professional help. Do everything possible to get a self-destructive individual the assistance he or she needs. Call an emergency line for guidance and referrals. Urge the individual to see an emotional well-being proficient, help find a treatment office, or take them to a medical checkup.

Follow-up on treatment. In the event that the specialist endorses a solution, ensure your companion or adored one accepts it as coordinated. Know about conceivable symptoms and make certain to inform the doctor if the individual is by all accounts deteriorating. It frequently requires investment and determination to discover the pharmaceutical or treatment it’s hard to believe, but it’s true for a specific individual.

Be proactive. Those thinking about suicide frequently don’t trust they can benefit from outside intervention, so you may be more proactive at offering help. Saying, “Call me on the off chance that you require anything” is excessively dubious. Try not to sit tight for the individual to call you or even to restore your calls. Drop by, call once more, and welcome the individual out.

Support a positive way of life changes, for example, a sound eating routine, a lot of rest, and getting out in the sun or into nature for something like 30 minutes every day. Exercise is additionally critical as it discharges endorphins, eases the pressure, and advances enthusiastic prosperity.

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Remember your awareness can save your beloved ones.

Stay Safe and Take care.