How to know that its time to end your relationship

Seldom do I advise patients or clients to end their connections. I like to believe that in the end, we gain the point of view and vitality important to settle on the choices that serve us best; be that as it may, I’ve upheld innumerable customers throughout the years as their connections unwound, and a few topics appear to develop over and over.

On the off chance that at least one of coming up next is valid for you, it may merit rethinking your relationship status.

Abusive and disrespectful towards you: You truly need to separate from the person who says he adores you, however, is wedded or focused on other ladies. You are only his hang lose in light of the fact that that ship has just cruised, and you should be with somebody who cherishes you in and out.

Dominates you: You are the supervisor of yourself, you assume the responsibility of your life. You truly needn’t bother with somebody who continues ruling and putting you down all the time. Love and care are alright until till transforms into mastery which may prompt oppressiveness as well.

Unavailable for you: Regardless of how bustling your lives get, there are times when you simply need to trust your musings in a man who is paying attention to each arbitrary idea of yours, who just sits with you to watch the sun go down. In the event that he’s always inaccessible, make sure his quality is for all time impaired! You needn’t bother with an accomplice who is never close by, who discloses to you that he cherishes you yet is never accessible to show it.

Over Possessive about you: Possessiveness is alright until the point that it transforms into obsession. You may overlook his consideration named ‘possessiveness’ at first, however, you’ll choke later.

In the event that at least one of these signs impacted you, I urge you to examine your musings and emotions further. Talk with a specialist, trust in a companion, and maintain a diary or journal about your experience. Development and mindfulness are important results of undesirable connections, however, life is too short to even think about remaining in them once we’ve realized whatever it is we’re intended to learn. A poisonous relationship can prompt pressure, sorrow, nervousness, and even restorative issues. So there is absolutely no point in stressing out yourself. Whenever you see these signs, just say ‘Goodbye’.

I will end this topic here. I would love to know your thoughts too. See you again, till then Stay safe & Take Care.

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Why do Millenials deserve a Chance

I needed to compose this article since I get extremely steamed when individuals adversely remark on our age. They say that we come up short on the fundamental conduct, we are into ourselves, and we do not have the eagerness to change the world. Presently, a portion of the things that individuals say has some reality, however on the off chance that anything we have been the most comprehensive age to date.

At the point when twenty to thirty-year-olds were growing up there would have been a more liberal way to deal with financial matters and legislative issues than in earlier decades. This age is suspected to be antagonistically influenced by the Great Recession and the monetary and social harm caused by it. Twenty to thirty-year-olds are frequently referred to as being more confident than past ages, they will likewise have a solid feeling of urban duty, a sound work-life balance and have socially liberal perspectives. This gathering was portrayed by the moving societal estimations of their chance; more separations, more ladies in the working environment, anyway when the age was in its early stages it was known as the MTV Generation and were said to be skeptical and lethargic. They are described by their nature with correspondences, media, and innovation, they would have experienced childhood in a more liberal political and financial world than previously and survived the Great Recession. This age would be described by their mass use of the Internet since early on, they are alright with innovation and associate via web-based networking media, growing up through the Great Recession may have given the age the sentiment of unsettlement or frailty.

Advantages of Millennials:

We feel entitled.

I went to my neices senior high school function, and an educator there communicated how this age feels just as they are qualified for everything. That’s true! As recent college grads, we have been pampered by our friends and family and instructed that we merit the world. We even got investment grants for losing an opposition! Like, what is that? On the off chance that anything, the world does not owe us anything. Keeping in mind the end goal to win something, we should work for it.

We as a whole need approval.

We go via web-based networking media and we look for consideration. On the off chance that we don’t have “x measure of preferences” on a photo or “x measure of devotees” we naturally accept that we are not commendable. For what reason would we say we are continually approving ourselves by the number of preferences we got on a tweet or a photo? It doesn’t gauge how astonishing our identity is. That is to say, probably the most persuasive individuals had a little gathering of devotees.

We need conduct.

This announcement is a cream. I realize that there are a few people in this age who are helping people. They hold entryways open for individuals, and on the off chance that somebody requests enable, they to offer it to them. Be that as it may, I do see when others around my age don’t hold the entryway open for outsiders, say thank you when an outsider accomplishes something pleasant for them, or say howdy to the individual sitting alongside them. It is basic. Treat others the manner in which you need to be dealt with.

The main way we are straightforward is through a screen.

At the point when is the last time, you told somebody the amount you acknowledge and love all that they do? When we converse with our smash, that is the main way we will admit to them the amount we like them. Or on the other hand, when somebody says something we don’t care for, we consequently assault them through web-based life since we won’t have the guts to state it to their face. In the event that just we were as overcome face to face as we are through a virtual world.

We have such a large number of assets to change the world, however, we come up short on the eagerness to do it.

Keep in mind when we were little and said we needed to be the President of the United States. Despite everything we can change the world regardless of whether we can’t really move toward becoming president. We have innovation that empowers us to impact others in manners that individuals couldn’t before. We simply need to make the decision to our objective and overlook things that keep us from improving the situation.

Disadvantages of Millennials:

We are comprehensive.

We have been the most tolerating age that has existed. We beat the individuals who victimized minorities, and we are tolerating to the individuals who recognize as cross-sexual, gay, lesbian, or transgender. We take everybody as they may be.

We adore being assorted

Regardless of whether we are Hispanic, Asian, White, or Black, we as a whole battle for one another rights. In the event that one side is assaulted, we protect one another. We are joined when we are looked with difficulty, and we join to battle the shared adversary.

We appreciate assisting

Regardless of whether it is the issue with Syrian evacuees or battling against third world destitution, we need to guarantee that everybody out there is equipped for being as fruitful as we may be. We comprehend giving back. Has that, as well as organizations can imagine Toms offer shod to those in need with each buy. We tend to help those organizations more.

We have huge objectives

A few people will take a gander at this badly, however, I feel that it makes us extraordinarily one of a kind. We realize that we as a whole have it in us to decidedly affect the world, and that is an astounding thing! We set up every one of these objectives in our mind since we realize that we are fit for achieving them.

We know how to cooperate

Let’s be realistic! In the event that we as a whole felt like a test was hard, we as a whole energize one another and say “On the off chance that you go down, I am running down with you!” We look for profound associations with each other and endeavor to communicate with one another at an individual level.

We know we have the ability to change the world

Regardless of how negative the more seasoned ages see us twenty to thirty-year-olds, we know we are the ones slice out to spare the world. We need to help the individuals who aren’t as special as us, and we know we have the answers to fix things like environmental change. With our basic reasoning and imagination abilities, we have the ability to affect the world to improve things.

Six thoughts upon Millennials

David Elliott from The Single Dad’s Guide To Life: I think you summed up a lot of them. I also think they aren’t as interested in marriage. Many feel like marriage doesn’t work and they don’t want to start a family when all the families they see around them are crumbling. I think they suffer from depression more than other generations but that could either be a cause of better mental health care recognizing issues or over-prescribing drugs that have negatively affected them. These, of course, are generalities and not specific. Millennials are very passionate as well. I see that you feel millennials have things going for them positively and negatively. You need to sum up what you are trying to say. I know you have a lot of opinions about the topic. I think this is the most I have seen you write on anyone issues so I know you feel strongly. I would take the negative stuff and try to frame it in a more positive light. It’s just that you value yourself and those around you more. That way you take the emotion self-worth and put a more positive spin on it.

David Elliott

Cannot mention name: I feel that millennial have a sense of entitlement. They don’t know what it is like to have to earn privileges. They don’t know what it is like to have to actually DO the things that need to be done in order to have. They expect everything to be handed to them on a silver platter and spoon fed to them directly.

Dalene Ekirapa from Dalene Ekirapa: Millennials are not useless, their thinking is just so much different as compared to the older generation. Take the example of any work environment. It’s common to see many millennials who don’t love the job not doing it to their level best. At the same time, for one who loves it pushes for success so seriously. And also, we are so keen on our skills and talents these days thus can be termed as ‘foolish’ by the older generation especially over here. Mind you, while I do blogging, I also do Quantity Surveying. Not that I don’t like it but it’s something I wouldn’t want to seriously do in the near future since I plan to go into my passion for blogging fully. Now, this can be termed as ‘useless’ by the older generation. As well, as technology takes up almost every space making work easier, it’s common to see many Millennials laying back and not having to do anything, unlike the older generation who back then would have to do it all. So I won’t blame them if they consider us to be lazy. Look at Facebook, developed by a millennial, all these apps, tech work… Most developed by Millennials. So we aren’t useless at all. And for the guys of the older generation who incorporate and work together will Millennials, we’ve seen them become a force to reckon with since for sure, we should move with trends. So above all, I’d say that we aren’t useless. We just need to be challenged, nurtured and given that space to show what we can do. And we do it better!

Dalene Ekirapa

Salona Surjoo from Love in Abundance: Millennials, in my opinion, have a totally different perspective on life compared to their elders. This can be great when we look at those who have made a positive impact in their communities or society at a larger scale. While not so great when we look at those who have just destroyed their youth or were a cause of pain and suffering to themselves and others. In my opinion, I think that us millennials have a different perspective on life, which is rather carefree and unbound by the social conditioning and restrictions of society before them. We see things from a point of experience rather than accumulative items to ‘show wealth’. And in my opinion, that is fantastic. Perhaps that also means that we might not have assets or are in a positive to grow a family. But I feel that having a carefree mindset, can attract abundance and in attracting abundance we a can create stability.

Salona Surjoo

Crisly Zerrudo from Empowering and Uplifting: I think other people call us lazy because generally speaking, millennials are lazy. Because we have the choice to be so. We are living in a world where digital is a big part if our lives. Do we need food? We don’t need to cook or go out of our house to get food, just a few clicks and food will be delivered at our doorsteps. On the other hand, in some part of the world, there are millennials who cannot enjoy being lazy, especially the part where digital doesn’t exist. If you think about it, it’s not really about the generations, it’s about technology. Millennials are using the technology to make lives easier. Why would you want to spend hours, days, and months going out, looking for a job if you can spend a few minutes every day working on creating an income digitally? Technology is a big part of our lives where we can do almost everything without leaving the comfort of our home.

Crisly Zerrudo

John Sallie from Doyen Digital Nomads: Well, all my four children are all millennials so I may be biased but one thing I do feel is that the cause of much of the youth’s depression and anxiety is a result of the overuse and electronics and resulting disconnect from nature. At our base level we are animals and yet we ourselves have removed ourselves from our own habitat. A simple walk in the forest can prove this point.

Author John Sallie

I would love to know your thoughts too. So see you soon again. Till then Stay safe and Take Care.

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Things to do before you turn 26

First of all, wish you all a very lovely Happy New Year, may all your dreams come true this year. Here goes my gift for everyone.

Please don’t laugh at the music.

My last 3 years have not been good but 2018 ended on a good note so I guess 2019 should go well but I am panicked too because I am getting one year older. I mean this year in May I will turn 26 years old, and I am afraid of that. I guess I am not yet ready to feel old. However, I have prepared this list of things you should do before turning 26.

Buy Dinner for Your Parents

I know you can do it after 25 too, but within 25 hopefully, you start working and taking them out will make them feel good. I do not have parents. I could never do it for my mother, but for dad I did it.

Party During the Whole Weekend

It sounds crazy, but it feels good because with time responsibilities in life increases. Doing an “all weekender” can be more difficult as you get old.

Start Saving for Your Retirement

It may seem a long way off still, but not a bad deal. your retired you will thank you. 😉

Go for an Impulse Buy

You may not use it but it can be a reward to yourself. Sometimes a little bit of craziness is good.

Go on a Blind Date

To be honest I have never done it and I feel bad now. I know I can do it even now but I do not get the thrill of doing it anymore.

Learn to Let Go

It can be anything, friendship, love, anything because nothing is permanent. Some people come into our lives and exist for different reasons at different times. Holding on to a relationship or anything that has run its course doesn’t do either of you any favors. So spare yourself.

Try Going to a Lesbian/Gay Club or Bar

I have many bisexual, lesbian/gay friends and they are way too good. I am also a member of some LGBTTQQIAAP (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual) groups and clubs and trust me in spite of knowing that I am heterosexual I am equally loved by them.

Learn to Live Alone

Our association with ourselves is the most vital one of our lives; we won’t invest as much energy with any other person! Figuring out how to appreciate our very own conversation and appreciate being separated from everyone else is precious on such a significant number of levels.

I love wolves

These are completely what I feel and think, maybe you think differently than I do as everyone’s thought process is not the same. Always remember in life even the smallest thing matters.

By the way, did I miss out on any point or idea? Let me know in the comments.

Hope to see you soon. Till then, Stay safe, Take care.

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Let It Go

If you have read my last post about my encounter on Suicide Bridge you should (I guess) remember whatever I have been through. 

However, some time has passed after that and as I was busy with my business as well as with my profession I could not blog that much. However, on 4th December night, I remember I was on the train on my way to Ahmedabad, Gujrat (India) for some meeting stuff these memories came back to my mind.

Just to divert my mind when I logged in to facebook from my phone I saw something that made me believe that whatever happened to me or with me on Suicide bridge was not to harm me but to warn me that I was about to face. 

Remember I mentioned about that only person or “friend” whom I could think of on that situation on suicide bridge? I faced betrayal, treachery, the blame of falsification from that person. I was blamed about something which hurt me, and I have already decided to lodge a complaint against myself because he would not. I know I never did anything, but only if…  😢

 

However, about my Suicide Bridge experience, I now feel that it was a warning that was given to me that night which I could not understand. Have I not been so stupid, I would have realized earlier that I am about to be a scapegoat.

But I do not regret being a scapegoat. I regret that how could I not understand what was going to happen to with me. 

I do not know what entity was that but I am really thankful to it.

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However, after 4th December 3 good things happened and my life is back on track.

I received an award for blogging on Mental Health awareness, you can now google my blog for mental illness and find me easily. 

2ndly I finally got transferred to the Educational Counseling department as a Student Psychologist. 😊😊

Yayyy..!!! 😂😂😂😂

And lastly, I am back with the person for whom I had waited for so long. Yes, we had our share of issues and heck a lot of fights, I was misguided by people who I thought were my well-wishers. Moreover, I am happy now and I guess whatever happens there is always a definite reason behind that.😉 

Well, I still do not date but I believe in love. Always did.

Because you never know 😊😉

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Why did I stop Dating

After reading this topic many might think that I will blabber the same thing that the guys I dated had this issue or that issue but no, this is different. I have dated a heck lot of men but it did not work out. It has been 2 years since I have stopped dating and here goes the prime reasons.

Somewhere in Sardinia

Touch me Not: When someone likes someone (regardless of gender) and they date obviously they want to touch, kiss the other person. In my case, I do not like anyone touching or kissing. I do not even prefer holding hands. Leave alone in reality not even virtually (if you can understand what I mean). I know it sounds weird but I am not at all comfortable.

Being ‘Extra’ Sweet: Of course, people love when the other person is being sweet to them or wants to know all about them. I am ok with that but when it comes to texting or calling that too 24*7 asking “Honey, you had lunch”, “Honey had dinner?” honey this, honey that; I am NOT okay. C’mon give me a break! I do not think this is sweet, according to me this is stalking. I mean now if I have to go to washroom do I need to tell the other person. This is utterly a shit and I do not tolerate this.

Behavioral Change: I have noticed this thing in men and women both when they want someone they would do anything so that they like them back and once it happens all of a sudden they become way too busy. I understand people might have busy lives and my schedule is an example for the ones who know me but if someone really means something to you no matter how busy you are you will find out a little time for them. If you cannot give them your precious time better STAY AWAY! In my case even after warning for several times if I still see that the person is coming up with excuses, no matter how much I like him, I walk away.

Overly Possessive: We all know being a little bit possessive is alright, but overly possessive? Trust me, IT SUCKS…! During my college days, I was dating a guy who had a problem with whenever anyone called me over the phone and my call went on waiting mode, even if it was my dad. I was made to cut contacts with all my friends and I was not even allowed to talk to my girl-friends. Very soon he got on my nerves and I dumped him.

Do NOT tell me what to do: Just because someone is dating me or I am dating someone that does not give us the right to interfere in our personal matters or family matters unless asked for. Try doing this and you are straight out of sight and out of mind.

Don’t ask me: I expect people to understand me rather than asking me. Yes there might be misunderstandings but if I really care about someone I would clarify it or give explanation. If I dont care enough then, “Get lost dude”.

Why Me? : People change, I do agree with that but why do I have to call or text someone always. When they wanted me and my time, they never got bored with me or had time for me during ‘their’ busy hours but now no time? Isn’t it simply great? As one of my blogging friend Daisy, told me once, “If a man wants you, he’ll call, he’ll text, he’ll cross the oceans and be there for you. Everything else is just an excuse.”, this is very true. Darling, you expect me to do it then why can’t you?

So in my case whenever this happens I observe them for a week then solely stop contacting or I make sure that they just ‘damn’ leave. It hurts, yes but mental peace is way more important to me. But once again, of course, I am not cutting them out of my life, I just cannot hurt my self-respect anymore. I am there for them if they need me because I know them. I know a lot of people, I just don’t make friends.

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See, I know I have issues and I accept them. All men are not as bad as often pictured, yes there are issues from both the sides and maybe we all are right from our own point of view. However, I always say that I am not good. Some say I am paranoid and some say that I may have an inferiority complex but I do not have any, I just accept myself the way I am. I can’t say sugar coated words, I can’t be pretentious. If that makes me bad then yes I am. 

However, I also believe that if 2 people are meant to be together nothing can come between them. No matter how bad the time is or how much complicated you are.

So be you. Accept yourself the way you are. Love yourself with all your complications because believe me no one on earth can love you more than you can.

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Siberian Husky in India

Hey lovelies, I know I am posting way too much since yesterday. But will you believe if I tell you that I met a siberian husky in India?

No… Right? As you know that a Siberian husky can live in 75 degrees below zero Fahrenheit, and right now the temperature in India (Kolkata) is more than 83 degrees Fahrenheit, now that means way too hot. Though he is kept in a air-conditioned house.

Now let me tell you, I came back to India today and as I am a restless soul I got back to my regular stuff. I met this 6 months handsome guy while I was waiting for my uber. 

Now those who know me well and my love for these sweehearts, before you ask me, let me tell you I didn’t let this sweetheart come upon me because of only one reason I needed a shower and it was way too hot and I was sweating like hell.  All thanks to Mr. Pallav Mitra and Mr. Biswarup Dutta for these amazing clicks.

That was a lovely meeting I will say as it took all my tiredness away. Now at least I know one thing I can get a Siberian husky too or wait, maybe a wolf… Yaaaaaay!!! You never know….! As I am way too unpredictable. Lol!

By the way in other news on 17th and 18th November I will be in L.A, U.S.A for some meeting, I hope to visit some paranormal places too, obviously for my paranormal niche.

So that’s all from me today. See you on Sunday.

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It was our Durga Puja

Our uncle Mr Ashis Mukherjee is an amazingly talented person. This year once again the local people came to know that. How?

Obviously because of his artistic talent.. If you do not believe me check out this video…

Ashis Mukherjee

Will you believe if I say the colonial Durgotsav this year won 7 awards only because of him. The list of awards goes as:

1.‌ TANUSHREE SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

2‌. ONKAR TV SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

‌3. UTKARSH ER SHERA SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

‌4. STAR CEMENT AND EXIDE SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

‌5. HOWRAH PATRIKA SHERA SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

‌6. ROTARY CLUB SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

7‌. CHOTOR DABI PATRIKA SHAROD SAMMAN HOWRAH SRESTO 2018

These are pretty much well-known awards in West Bengal, India. Picture courtesy goes to my brother Soumyajyoti Mukherjee. Young, yet talented photographer.

They all together make our Family a Flamily-Famealy 

I would love to know your thoughts below in the comments.

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